60 Useful Vetting Questions To Ask Your New Bae

If you’re out here in these dating streets, you might want to have some vetting questions on standby.

The vetting process is extremely important when intentionally dating because it gives you the opportunity to narrow down candidates. Imagine it’s like a job interview. You are the interviewer and your potential bae is the interviewee. It is your job to ask the right questions to seek out the perfect candidate to fill the position. In other words, you have to already know what you’re looking for in a potential contender.

If you’re still confused about the vetting process, check out this post here.

Whether you’re learning how to navigate dating apps or you met your new potential at Target, here’s a list of useful vetting questions to ask.

Vetting Questions 1-30:

1. Are you a believer in Jesus Christ?
2. Are you reading any devotionals? How do you apply them to your life?
3. Typically, what kind of time do you carve out for your relationship with God?
4. What are your typical weekends like?
5. Do you fast? If so, how often?
6. How often do you pray?
7. Do you have a church home?
8. How’s your relationship with your family?
9. In what ways do you think God should show up in a marriage?

10. Do you want to get married? Courthouse or wedding?
11. What’s your take on tithing/offering?
12. Do you want kids? How many?
13. If you had kids, what are the 3 top things you would want to instill in them?
14. What character from your favorite tv show do you think you’re most like, how and why?
15. Did you grow up in a religious household?
16. If you would’ve gotten married a few years ago, do you think you would have been ready? And do you feel ready now?

17. What kind of parent do you think you would be?
18. Describe your ideal type physically, emotionally and spiritually.
19. Introvert or extrovert?
20. Homebody or always out?
21. Would you rather go to the movies or watch movies at home?
22. How often do you think date nights should be, married and with kids?
23. Would you ever be in an open relationship?

24. What’s one experience that changed your outlook on life?
25. Do you cook? What’s your favorite foods/dietary restrictions?
26. What is your love language?
27. How do you show people you love them?
28. What is your current relationship attachment style?
29. What is your viewpoint on therapy?
30. Are you in therapy?

Questions 31-60:

1. What’s your most toxic trait?
2. Relationship dealbreakers?
3. Relationship expectations?
4. What role do you think the woman/man plays in a relationship?
5. Do you believe in soulmates?
6. What was your last relationship like and how did it end?
7. How long did you take before entering a new relationship?
8. Do you have any resentment towards your ex? Why?
9. If given the opportunity, would you take any of your exes back?
10. What have you done to work on any previous trauma/pain?
11. How do you handle stressful situations/ what are your stress relievers?
12. How do you cope with feeling sad/ angry?
13. Is commitment something you struggle with?
14. How do you communicate your thoughts and feelings?
15. What would you say is the most challenging thing about being in a relationship with you?
16. What is your idea of a healthy relationship?
17. How are you with finances/ what’s your relationship with money like?
18. What is something you regret?
19. If you could give your younger self advice, what would you tell him/her?
20. What’s something you want to change about the world?
21. Where do you go to be alone?
22. What’s something no one really knows about you?
23. What do you wish you could forget?
24. What’s a memory you hope you never forget?

25. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be alone or have someone cheer you up?
26. Who’s the one person you tell everything to?
27. Have you ever broken someone’s heart? What did you do/say?
28. Have you ever gotten your heart broken? If you care to share, what happened?
29. Would you ever marry someone for their money?
30. What’s the worst advice you’ve ever been given?

Of course, asking questions while dating should not mimic an interrogation. Be sure to make the questions flow into normal conversation.

Happy vetting!